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NEDA Week 2014.

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tomorrow is the first day of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week 2014. i’ve been thinking for almost the entire month about how i was going to approach it, if at all. and here’s what i’ve come to settle on:

this week is important, for sure. it’s important to raise awareness in the general public, not just about eating disorders and what they are, but also about their prevalence and the problems surrounding getting proper treatment for those in need. a while back i wrote about my feelings on recovery and why i have chosen to remain distant from the ED recovery community. that decision becomes especially apparent during this week. but since every now and again i get asked about how my recovery is going and how it “still works” after several years, here’s what i have to say:

recovery isn’t about this week. it’s not about going on as many NEDA Week Walks as you can find within driving distance. it’s not about buying the t-shirt with this year’s catchy slogan. it’s not about wearing your purple ribbon around fielding questions about what it stands for.

recovery isn’t about being a spokesperson, spouting information, or sharing your story. it’s not about NEDA symbol temporary tattoos or scale-smashing parties. all of those things might exist within your recovery, but they do not define or signify it.

i’ll tell you what recovery is. recovery is about being a fucking warrior. why? because it’s hard as hell. you’re going to have to fight every goddamn day, hour, minute to keep doing what you need to do to emerge from the rubble of a decimated self-concept.

recovery is about taking responsibility. before anyone starts throwing shade at me and calling me insensitive: the biggest turning point in me moving from sorta-kinda-in-recovery with a side of relapse to full-on recovery was taking responsibility for my actions and my reactions. people are going to say shitty things, do shitty things, shit is going to happen. just because something is upsetting or “triggering” does not mean you are bound by some invisible contract to react in a way that engages your eating disorder. begin exercising your human right to make your own choices and to rise above habit and reactionary decisions. which goes back to the idea of being a warrior – force yourself to rise above the situation and come out stronger.

and finally, at some wonderful amazing point in the process, recovery becomes about not needing your eating disorder as a definition of yourself. you no longer need to cling to your diagnosis like a security blanket, because in sloughing off the skin of your disorder you have uncovered three dozen things that are infinitely more important to your idea of self.

recovery is a 365-day-a-year engagement. this week might be a little booster for you, a nudge or a reigniting of the flame, but recovery doesn’t only come out of its shell during these seven days in february every year. enjoy this week and use it in the way that best furthers your endeavors, but go out and be a warrior every day from here on out.

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Author: jenn

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